The saddest aspect of the psyche of those who have experienced traumatic maltreatment is the normalization of abuse. Since the perpetrator is usually someone in a position of authority and trust for the abused, it is difficult to find catharsis, especially if the abuse is repetitive. Instead, maladaption takes place as learned helplessness and normalization occurs. Psychological pressure cannot be released, so the container is expanded in volume, metaphorically, thereby normalizing the trauma. This accommodation is apparent in those who insist that “that’s just how it is.” Their belief systems have been modified, thus altering their perception of reality. This is why the sexually assaulted are often sexually promiscuous, the physically abused become self-harmers, the psychologically oppressed become bullies, etc. Once abuse is accepted as normal to diffuse tension, then it must constantly be re-experienced to reinforce normality. To change this cognitive framework is to force the reemergence of the very feelings being embraced yet avoided, and sadly is extremely difficult.
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